A gentle, guided way out of feeling:
✺ It isn't safe to 'put yourself first' - hello 'good girl' programming!
✺ Your boundaries (wants/needs) are selfish and at the expense of others
✺ It doesn't feel safe to express yourself honestly and say what you feel or need
✺ Like you always end up cycles of burnout
✺ You can't set boundaries or don't know how to
✺ You can't say 'no' without hurting someone or being perceived as...lazy, nasty, a bad mother, not caring enough, not good enough...
✺ You're often taken advantage of or people don't appreciate or value you and your efforts (including kids!)
✺ Anxious, like your stomach is in knots, when you become aware you've overstepped someone else's boundaries
✺ You are too much or ask for too much
✺ Like there's something wrong with you - there isn't
✺ You can't trust yourself or other people and therefore you can't ever really 'let go'
✺ Your obligations (kids, work, household etc) keep you SO busy, you don’t have time for yourself or what you really want to do....rest, connect with yourself, prioritise your partner, go out with friends...
✺ Like you're always overcommitting, ending up overwhelmed by your commitments and responsibilities
✺ Shame or guilt when you try to put a boundary in place